My Real vs Not Real Worries is a worksheet designed to help children differentiate between real-life worries and hypothetical worries. By distinguishing between these two types of worries, children can develop strategies to manage and address their real worries while learning to let go of the hypothetical ‘not real’ worries.

Key Features:

Identifying real-life worries: The worksheet prompts children to identify worries that are happening in their lives right now. These worries may relate to personal experiences, situations, or challenges that require attention and problem-solving.

Recognising hypothetical worries: Children are encouraged to identify worries that are hypothetical or "not real," meaning they are concerns that have not happened and may never occur. These worries are often based on imagined or future-oriented scenarios that can cause unnecessary distress.

Developing a plan of action for real worries: For real-life worries, children are prompted to create a plan of action. This involves brainstorming practical steps they can take to address the worry, problem-solve, or seek support from trusted individuals.

Creating a "plan of actions" for not real worries: For hypothetical worries, children are encouraged to develop a "plan of actions" to manage these concerns. This can include strategies such as positive self-talk, reframing thoughts, engaging in calming activities, or seeking reassurance from trusted individuals.

Benefits:

Differentiating between real and hypothetical worries: The worksheet helps children understand that not all worries are based on real-life circumstances. This awareness reduces unnecessary anxiety and empowers children to focus their attention and energy on concerns that they can action and manage.

Problem-solving skills: By creating a plan of action for real worries, children develop problem-solving skills. They learn to break down problems into manageable steps and explore practical solutions.

Emotional regulation: Developing a "plan of actions" for not real worries promotes emotional regulation. Children learn coping strategies to manage anxious thoughts or worries that may arise from hypothetical scenarios, building resilience and helping them to feel calm.

Perspective-taking: The worksheet encourages children to evaluate the likelihood and impact of their worries. This fosters perspective-taking skills, helping children gain a balanced view of their concerns and develop a more realistic understanding of potential outcomes.
This is a valuable resource for any psychologist’s toolkit and one which parents or professionals can use to help children learn to recognise, categorise and manage their worries.